Gift Guide for Infertility & Loss Mamas
written by Abigail Sikma via her blog abigailsikma.com
Your loved one is going through it. Whether it is another month of negative tests, a difficult holiday with empty arms, that “what would be” due date of that sweet babe is coming quick, or your friend is currently at the ER from spotting, you just want them to feel loved. I share a lot of our infertility & loss journey & thought maybe I would put together my experience to craft a gifting guide so you no longer have to wonder “what could I get for her?”.
This blog post was written based on my own personal experience & shared on my public blog Abigail Sikma that is currently closed. There I learned how to share my story through infertility & loss. It was a method that created healing for me & most importantly community. A community that I feel has transferred to STH & therefore I would love for my previous heart filled writings to be of a resource for this space & for these mamas. Below you will find a gift guide with specific links to gift ideas & also some helpful information to look for when you are at the store or browsing online for that special loved one.
Disclosure : This post may contain affiliate links, meaning I make a commission if you decide to make a purchase through my links at no cost to you. This is made for full transparency.
In this blog post you will happily find…
+ affiliate links for gift ideas
+ explanation for things to look for in these gifts
+ reach out to have a blanket made for your loved one
What to look for when searching for an Infertility & Loss gift.
Here are just some pointers or ideas to keep in mind when searching for a special gift to offer during a difficult time. Some things that are symbolic to the infertility or loss community & even a few that makes that specific loss more represented.
Call her Mama. Any “mama in waiting” still feels like a mom. Maybe they do not handle diapers or discipline at the moment, but their heart is in the place to love fiercely. They just need those 10 tiny fingers & 10 tiny toes to pour that love into. When searching for a gift, do not be afraid to include the word Mama in that search. Whether it is a mother grieving the hope lost that month or a baby itself lost, a mama is a mama. Hearing that word will feel very validating.
Include Symbolism. Infertility & Miscarriage both have their own symbols that have been coined throughout the years. Pineapples have been known to represent the infertility community & rainbows are the symbol for the babies that come after a miscarried life. Another thing to look for is Rose Quartz as it is a crystal that deems hope in fertility.
Remember the Babe. If there is any information you know about this sweet like that was lost, bring it to attention. If you know the due date, any nicknames the parents had, really anything that they held tight too to remember their baby, remember that too. Birthstone type gifts are an awesome way to represent what the birthday could have been, something they can hold onto when that difficult month approaches.
Pamper, Self-Care, Tend to the Mother. She is going through a lot. She delivered her sleeping baby. Or she envisioned a pregnancy announcement around the holidays for a positive test that never came. Again & again. It is heart breaking. This mama needs some time to recharge & feel taken care of. Whether flowers, a manicure, some bath salts or slippers, anything that brings comfort to the mother will touch her heart & let her know she is processing this with a support system.
Here are just a few things you can get for those mamas going through infertility & loss.
I just want to reiterate that these items links are commissionable for me, Abigail. They are all things that I picked out myself from all sites like Target, Amazon, Etsy & more. If you purchase something with my assistance from these links then I may receive a percentage of the sale personally.
Please do not feel any pressure to purchase items specifically on this list, more use this as a guide for ideas! It is much more important to me that you find something that feels special for this loved one or yourself than it is for me to receive any type of personal compensation.
A note from the author : This is a blog post written by myself, Abigail Sikma on abigailsikma.com — a blog that is currently closed but still filled with heart for this community that I wanted some resources to be available here. If you have any questions about this, please do not hesitate to reach out.
