You are here for someone you love.
Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Infant Loss & Infertility
You just got the news β your sister, your friend, your coworker, your daughter β sheβs lost her baby or opened up about their journey to parenthood being a hard, bumpy one. The words donβt come. Your heart breaks for her, and you wish you could take the pain away.
Youβre not alone in feeling unsure of what to say or how to help. The truth is, there is no perfect fix β but your presence, your compassion, and your willingness to walk with her through the valley matter more than you know.
At Something to Hold, we want to equip you with tools to support your loved one with gentleness, empathy, and grace β whether the loss was yesterday or years ago, whether sheβs navigating infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss.
Request a Blanket
If you have not gifted a blanket, please fill out the form through this link below. These blankets are fiercely prayed over for a peace that surpasses all understanding to surround these families in comfort.
Know that these blankets have been donated to offer a way of supporting those we love. It is an answer to βwhat can we do?β. They have been made by a community of hands volunteering to tie every knot, demonstrating the outpouring of love & a deep desire to comfort.
First, letβs fill their arms with a tangible comfort ‡
& a few simple tips!
Show up.
Grief can be incredibly lonely. A simple text, a card in the mail, or a warm meal delivered to her doorstep reminds her sheβs not alone.
Listen more than you speak.
You donβt need the right words β you just need to be there. Hold space for her to talk, cry, or sit in silence.
Acknowledge her baby.
Say their name if you know it. Mark important dates. Her baby is deeply loved and never forgotten.
Avoid platitudes β say:
βIβm so sorry. I donβt have the words, but Iβm here.β
βIβm thinking of you and your baby today.β
βYou donβt have to go through this alone.β
Keep Showing Up
Grief doesnβt follow a timeline. Your continued presence in the weeks, months, and even years to come is a profound gift.
Here is another simple option to extend support in this season. Download this graphic right to your phone as an easy way to reach out in love.
Whether youβre showing up for the first time or continuing to stand in the gap, we are here to support you as you support her. Thereβs something to hold for her β and for you, too.
Find connection & hope through βStories Toldβ β segment coming soon
Stories Told is a growing collection of personal reflections from moms who have walked through loss and seasons of waiting and their loved ones. Here, their words offer honesty, hope, and connectionβreminders that none of us are alone in our grief or longing.
As we continue to gather these sacred stories, we invite you to read, share, and sit with the experiences of others who have walked a similar path. If you have a story to share, please send to hello@somethingtohold.org! It would be an honor to hold your story here at STH.
Curated Comfort Tools
Weβve gathered meaningful music, podcasts, and books that have brought comfort, hope, and understanding to those walking through baby loss. Whether you're grieving yourself or supporting someone who is, these handpicked recommendations are here to meet you in the quiet moments, offer words when you have none, and remind you that you are not alone. If you have any music, books or podcasts to recommend, please send them to hello@somethingtohold.org!